Think about what you do when you first awaken. Perhaps you lie
quietly and listen to the sensations of which you are aware or see
yourself succeeding in the activities of the day ahead. Now, some
people
get right out of bed and become active immediately. I don't know
which is your way, nor do I suggest that you change any little
thing. But we do change little things all the time and sometimes
we overlook other little things.
Rituals can be little things: the way we celebrate our beliefs,
the way we greet our loved ones or even the way we approach our
choices and challenges of life. Rituals are tools we use to deal
with the
experience of life. We may assign special meaning to the word or
create rituals to place greater significance upon events in our
lives. A ritual may be as simple or complex as needed. So how do
we create a ritual and how important is it in our lives? The
answer is simple: I don't know. You do.
And you may wonder what Rituals have to do with Hypnosis. Here
again, you already have some idea in mind. Consider that the way
we listen may involve a ritual we use toward awareness of others
as a method of enhancing rapport. We all have our rituals and they
are all important.
Now when we become more aware of our perceptions, influences
and rituals we can more easily recognize those of others. In this
way we may begin to discover that by using the simple rituals of
learning that are already a part of our lives, we can learn new
things in ways which are familiar.
Consider that every thought, idea and experience has had an
effect on the way that we perceive our lives. Remember a time when
you were successful. A time when everything that you had done to
succeed worked just the way you imagined and you realized your
goal. You may have received recognition from others or just the
inner awareness of satisfaction not only in the event but of the
unlimited potential within.
Even if we consider the simple rituals in life as habits, we
can begin to notice that these are patterns we use to succeed in
certain ways. These patterns allow us to repeat certain tasks
without having to
learn anew HOW we accomplish the set outcome. There may be certain
rituals that we employ to open our inner communication allowing a
greater awareness of inspiration. We may have rituals that we use
to permit the conscious mind to explore while we are involved in
repeated activities; some feel a conscious elevation when jogging,
playing music or praying. Others, like myself, enjoy the ritual of
entering trance when we assist clients in order to be more aware
of the energies which may guide us, perhaps it is an empathic
connection we establish. How do you enter trance? What is your
ritual?
Notice the similarities of actions and perceptions in different
contexts and notice the ways we can use them in assisting change.
A weight management client once told me that she was frustrated by
the time
it was taking to achieve her goal: she believed she had no
patience and worse, that when she was thus frustrated she ate
inappropriately. She was ready to consider failure. I knew from
our discussions that her passion was gardening and asked her to
tell me about that, saying that I supposed that you would put a
seed in the ground, cover and water it, then in the morning, ala
Jack of beanstalk fame, there would be a great huge plant. She
shook her head in the way one would at the inaccuracy of a small
child. "No" she said, and proceeded to tell me in great
detail of germination, fertilization, pruning and more that I do
not recall. When she paused long enough for me to speak, I said
"Growing plants must
require a lot of patience. I wonder how long you will take to grow
your body to the size you choose."
Over the years I have found that my clients always know
more about healing and transformation than I could ever suppose.
It is my job to assist them in accessing that vast awareness and
utilizing it their lives. Some clients will respond to metaphors
and they will provide clues to the best of them. Others will give
us the script for the direct transformation they can accept. All
of us can create transformation in an
instant, the words and methods that we require to allow ourselves
permission to accept the transformation is the ritual.
When working with clients, I believe that my best is
accomplished when I do the least in terms of "deciding"
what to do. I instigate, encourage and assist them to identify
their resources and access the
ritual to realize transformation. I utilize the trance they bring
into the office (because they already do that one well) and help
them to discover a compelling understanding which convinces them
of immediate and
continued success.
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